Testimonials for the tarot readings, mostly done at my former Woodstock NY office or current Kingston NY office, are at the top of the page and those for the candle service lower down. Validation endorsements as a body empath are sort of scattered among them.
There is a special section at the end which mentions some body empath experiences I had while doing candles for folks which were validated by clients who experienced very distressing things in their past, including abuse. I have moved those to the end under the area marked TRIGGER FOR MENTION OF ABUSE, and it is strongly recommended that those sensitive to details of unpleasant activities skip this, or at least be advised that they may be triggering.
“I have been read for by several people, but Donnalee has a special type of insight. She looks at the situation in depth and will do whatever it takes to explain everything thoroughly. I felt like she understood my question, as complex as it was, and gave each aspect the attention it needed. She knows how to capture the big picture while still attending to details. If you’re ready to gain a better understanding of yourself and your circumstances, Donnalee’s the one to go to!” –Lindsey S.F. [email reading]
“Donnalee possesses a special talent for this work. Her readings are incredible. I approached this with some degree of skepticism. I am a psychologist and psychotherapist who approached this with an attitude of reservation although I am open to various spiritual practices. I was honestly blown away by her readings.
She brings a skillful, compassionate and highly intuitive presence. Her approach incorporates a psychotherapeutic reading. It reminded me of an I Ching and revealed great synchronicity. She has a great understanding of these cards and brings a loving and helpful attitude. She is not interested in predictive approaches,but rather in helping clients perceive their current situation clearly and explore possibilities for the highest benefit. She stresses freedom rather than determinism. She is sincere about helping clients get unstuck. I would whole heartedly recommend her and would refer select patients to her as an adjunct to the therapy process.” –Dr. Yaakob Shalom B. [several in-person readings]
“Laughing Dakini points the way with a sense of truth and freedom that is rare and aware.
Recommended for all puzzled people… which is close to 100 percent of us, these days. Laughing can happen because of sudden insight, or it can be a reaction to a silly knock-knock joke, or it can ripple your reality into a new form. That’s the kind of laughter you’ll find here!”
“My experience with Donnalee was more
incredible than I could have imagined. I had high hopes, yet
was still beyond satisfied. I’m now recommending her to
everyone who I think could use it.
First, Donnalee creates an atmosphere
in the room which feels safe, comfortable, and grounding-
her energy is naturally that way as it is. But she goes the
extra mile to make sure you are both comfortable.
It felt natural talking to her about
what was going on in my life, she is very open and
understanding. When it came to reading my cards, her
observations were concise and intuitive, everything said
and displayed was accurate for the situations I had
described. In some instances I was speechless. I felt like
my experiences were validated, and that I had access to the
strength inside of me to deal with my struggles with a sense
of clarity and calmness.
Now, when I feel myself getting pulled
into my ego, and suffering with these specific problems, I
visualize the cards and my experience with Donnalee, and am
able to ground myself, collect myself, and carry on with
faith instead of fear. Endlessly grateful!”
Jordan R. [in-person reading at Woodstock office]
Private correspondence received 3/9/19 from repeat tarot and candle client, used with permission:
“Hi. You were right ( per usual!) I recently got a nice offer on a property which I was inclined to accept. You advised to wait and not impulsively grab the first offer as the property was worth more and more offers might be forthcoming.
Look and behold, within two days five new offers materialized, one for thirty thousand more dollars than the original. Your wise counsel to pause and wait turned out to be just the medicine that was needed. Thanks.”
Recommendations and positive feedback for the candle service:
“I wanted to write you about my experiences being a test case “guinea pig”. I admittedly went into the experiment with an open mind albeit a bit skeptical. I am a psychologist/therapist in New York City and the Hudson Valley. I emphasize being grounded, but also open to the mysterious realms that we can’t control or predict.
From the time you prepared and started lighting candles and meditating on my situation I noticed an unmistakable shift in energy–most notably connected to my money situation. Money started to subtly but unmistakably appear. Patients from the past who had owed money suddenly re-appeared and reimbursed me. Old patients called to undergo therapy again. Mind you some of these patients had been last seen fifteen plus years ago.
I can’t explain the results, but there was clearly a correlation between your work, a shift in energies and some tangible results. Perhaps the spirits became involved as we say in kabbalah/ shamanism. At any rate, I recommend your work and would make use of it again and emphatically iterate its gentle and benign quality. It is not a replacement for other approaches, but an adjunct.
Licensed Psychologist and therapist
“Donnalee is a person with access to heightened
perception and the sacred big mind. I was in very severe
physical pain when she lit candles for me, and for the first
time in my life I was able to observe the pain and not mind
it. I am sure any work she does will prove to be interesting
Marka Knight, Singer
“Donnalee very kindly offered to light a few candles for me, to help me maybe feel better in myself, since I’d been having a lot of trouble with ptsd symptoms.
The lighting of the candle was wonderful. I instantaneously felt better! Once she told me she’d lighted it, I could feel its effects right away. Right after she got done burning it, I felt great! Positive, like a lot of badness and bad energy and stuff was gone!
I would recommend people try it! It really does work!
Donnalee is very professional, friendly, positive, and I would recommend her services. You won’t be disappointed in them!”
“I love that Donnalee offered to do this for me. I have DID; in fact I am one of the alters in our system. For those who may not know, DID stands for dissociative identity disorder, and alters, or parts, are the personalities who share a body with the main or host person.
As soon as the candle that Donnalee lit for me finished, I felt really good. I felt all the bad energy drain out of me. It felt like I was able to let go of a lot of stuff. I felt happier. More content in myself which I was delighted about.
I’d highly recommend people try this out. You’ll be really glad you did. I can guarantee you’ll feel the difference right away from the lighting of the candle. They are great for getting rid of bad cooties.”
From private email today (1/15/19) about candle burned this week; comments are used with permission. Both comments are by the same person, who had been in bed with severe leg and back pain for most of a few weeks:
“I had a huge relief from pain yesterday evening, really amazing.”
“That was the only relief I’ve had in three weeks!”
From private email today (1/16/19), used with permission:
“Your help is invaluable.”
From private email today (1/20/19) from an ongoing candle client about this week’s events, used with permission:
“You are awesome! I am a Taurus who while open to alternative approaches concomitantly maintains a somewhat skeptical stance. Nevertheless, after your candle burning rituals I began to notice subtle, yet powerful synchronicities. Money would somehow “turn up” in the strangest ways. For example, I was expecting some checks from an insurance company, but they ostensibly failed to be there when I checked my PO Box. This left me a bit disconcerted. Yet when I finally checked my mail a few days later I noticed that there were three checks clearly visible between other pieces of mail that I had somehow missed. Of course this might just be a coincidence. However, the same thing happened the next day. A holiday card with a check that I had received some weeks before was found, completely unexpectedly, to contain another gift check under it for the same amount again. Both instances represent an anomaly for me as I am generally quite careful and perceptive.
I’m not saying you magically CAUSED the checks to appear out of thin air, but rather your craft seems subtle. It may have revealed the money that was hidden out of plain sight.
At any rate thank you!
Your process seems to mesh well with others and add a subtle yet beneficial element.”
A client whose family car had been hit twice from behind by a drunk driver received an insurance settlement today that she was very happy with, a figure higher than any of the other people in the car received, and credits the candle service for it. From private email today (1/24/19) from ongoing client, used with permission:
“Candles and money!
They really worked! I got XX thousands out of the
settlement! So they worked a treat! Thanks for doing them
for us! I am really very happy with my offer!”
“I will write a post to the group to telling them how good your services are just in case some of them want to try out the candle thing.
And I will also tell all our friends about you. I hope you get more clients from this. You really deserve it. Your services are awesome.
“I recommend you use her services if you feel there are issues in your life you need help with as she does the candles, and she gives updates on how they are going, and it’s amazing. I love it!
“She has really helped us a lot, not just with the money issue, with all of our emotional issues, and ptsd symptoms lessen each time she does a candle for us!
So if you can, give it a go!
Thanks Donnalee, for everything!”
From private email received 2/2/19, used with permission, about candles burned 1/31/19 and 2/1/19:
We think it worked or God heard or whatever because after 3 days resting had change in schedule: we slept last nite. Kind of a miracle. It’s been difficult over last 6 weeks.
From ongoing client with severe PTSD, posted in private group on 2/6/19, used with permission:
“donnalee’s candles are awesome!
she did one for me yesterday, and it really helped me.
today I am feeling a lot calmer.
I also feel not as upset as I felt earlier at the weekend.
From private email 2/12/19 from ongoing weekly client about candle burned late in day 2/11/19, comments used with permission:
“YES! IT’S DOING ITS JOB!FOR SURE! I NEEDED IT TOO! SLEPT A LOT LAST NIGHT,
THERAPY WASN’T GREAT YESTERDAY, WELL I MEAN IT WAS GOOD AND A GOOD SESSION,
JUST THAT WE WERE A TRIGGERED DISSOCIATIVE MESS DURING OUR SESSION.
THANKS FOR THE CANDLE THOUGH, I REALLY NEEDED IT, SO DID ALL OF MY SYSTEM.”
From a private email received 2/16/19 from ongoing weekly client about candle burned 2/13/19, used with permission:
I wanted to thank you for the beneficial results I obtained this past week. Your candles seem to serve as a healing adjunct. A new patient contacted me to obtain my services after a lull in new referrals and equally satisfactorily, an old patient contacted me to resume services after a five or six year hiatus. Thanks for your help!
Private email received 2/27/19, used with permission of client:
“Greetings. I have been significantly impressed by Ms. Dermady-Minney’s ability to diagnose and empathically feel what is going on in my body and point to various energy obstructions. She is a gifted healer and is usually quite accurate about her intuitions. She manifests them in her own system and is a caring, compassionate, empathetic and effective practitioner. I would thoroughly recommend her without hesitation. ”
When I prepared the candle for a clients’ system today (3/25/19), it felt so frantic energetically that it almost gave me convulsions so I chose a mellow pale yellow candle to express the energy peacefully and it felt much better by the time it was finished. Email exchange used with permission. I wrote initially:
“I just started your candle. What a busy frantic day it feels like! I hope you are well.
“I am ok thanks! I am busy though! You’re not wrong! The day has been manic! therapy and then work!
now just home an hour ago, have eaten dinner and am now relaxing and about
to hop in a bubble bath!”
Comment received 4/4/19 about candle done 4/3/19, used by permission:
“OH! WOW! WELL I’M GLAD YOU DID IT FOR ME! I FEEL THE BENEFIT OF IT TODAY!
For candle done on 4/9/19, feedback received 4/10/19 and used with permission:
I wrote to client 4/9/19 about candle that finished up 5:30 pm eastern standard time (10:30 pm in their time zone):
“Your candle finished up with a bit of a meltdown, so I hope you’re doing okay.”
The client’s reply:
“no unfortunately I wasn’t ok last night.
I am better this morning though so the candle must’ve helped!”
From client whose father had severe lung infection. The candle was done on his behalf 4/7/19, and this email arrived to me 4/10/19; used with permission:
“Thanks for doing the one for my dad! It really helped!
He’s way better than he was!”
Me to repeat candle client about candle done 4/16/19, used with permission and a bit of an edit to preserve privacy. I wrote:
“It finished up and seemed to be
okay. It looks like there might be a little
stress around romance or relationships,
but other than that seemed good.
I hope it helps.
“Wow! You picked up on that? I was thinking
about my partner a lot recently.
I haven’t talked to her in a while.
You know she’s (living far away from me now).
I miss her.”
“Donnalee is incredible, her attunement is amazing! I encourage you all to have candles done for you and see what happens for you!”
Private email from today (5/5/19) about candle which had been finished fifteen minutes previously, used by permission of client who is part of a multiple system, which is what she means by “being out”:
is it done now? I’m feeling some benefit
from it already! I don’t feel anxious
and even though we’re sick I don’t feel
that bad when I am out.
thanks for doing that for me!
My email to repeat client while doing a candle for them today, 5/8/19:
“Also, are you guys having too much coffee? I could SMELL coffee in the sage I was burning with your candle, which usually does not smell like coffee but does always smell like whatever issue the people are having–I’d check with [another insider who likes coffee] if I were you!”
The reply was:
“Yes! we have been having a lot of it! I will try to cut down on it! thanks for the candle, as always it’s great!”
From private email 6/19/19 about candle done on 6/18/19, used with permission:
“I GOT A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP, SO IT DID HELP A LOT!
I WAS GLAD TO GET SOME GOOD SLEEP!”
From me myself:
I had been taking a break from doing the candles for a few months due to being busy and feeling a little under the weather. On 12/16/19, I decided to just plain do a candle each for me and for my partner, and WITHIN THE FIRST FIFTEEN MINUTES the partner brought in the day’s mail, which contained a holiday card with an unexpected check for $5,000.00 for me. It seemed like an obvious reminder to do the candles even if life seems too busy or if my health feels droopy, as can happen in extreme cold sometimes.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR DETAILS OF ABUSE CONFIRMED IN VALIDATIONS FOLLOWING:
An exchange between me and a client about me being a body empath and the candle burned for them 2/15/19, used with permission:
—– Original Message —–
Sent: Friday, February 15, 2019 7:42 PM
Subject: I just started a candle for you today
not to trigger you but
Seriously, did someone used to grab you by the elbow? I was starting to
prepare the candle for you right now, and I felt this really strong grip
on my left elbow, as if someone used to grab you by the elbow to stop you doing something or to force you to do something. If they did, I’m sorry
and it sucks. The good news is it won’t work on me and I will burn up all
I’ll let you know when it is finished–
WELL F**K! YES! THEY DID! A LOT OF TIMES THEY DID! PEOPLE WHO ABUSED US WOULD DO THAT TO US! WOW! THAT’S WEIRD THAT IT HAPPENED TO YOU WHEN YOU WERE PREPARING THE CANDLE!
WELL I’M GLAD YOU ARE BURNING THEIR BAD ENERGY!
Email exchange yesterday about a candle I burned 3/22/19 for a blind client with a severe abuse history and DID, used with permission. I (Donnalee) experienced the physical feelings myself and wrote:
Trigger warning for question about
They used to pick you up by the neck
somehow into the air? Is that true?
What a scary thing. I hope I am
wrong about that, but it felt like someone
was doing it to me, some sort of being
in the air with some fabric or
something at the neck, clothing or
something tied, so I am guessing they had
done it to you.
The reply from the client:
trigger talk of abuse details given.
yes. that’s true. they would do all
sorts to us. they’d think up things.
picking us up and holding us upside
down in the air was just one thing they
did. holding us with rope or something
like rope dangling us in the air. it
Private emails between candle service client with history of severe abuse and me, used with permission 2/27/19.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR SCARY DETAILS OF ABUSE AND RAW LANGUAGE:
Me to client in email:
“I was just starting to prepare the candle for you. Wow, you seem to have had some hard times–I mean, I knew that–and I’m so sorry about that.
I don’t want to trigger you, but here’s another question or two.
I got a lot of pain at the back of the hand, like maybe it got burned inside or crushed, and then this shitty shitty scary feeling of getting the face ducked into water or something like that, sort of bent over and breathless and up and down a lot. I’m so sorry if anything like that went on. The solid glass candleholder that I use just for you guys actually broke today while I put the candle in, so that usually means something is coming up emotionally for you. I did use a nice new clean one and I did light the candle, so the cooties are on their way out now!
Client email reply: “YES! ALL OF THAT AND THEN SOME! ALL OF THAT HAPPENED TO US DURING THE AWFUL ABUSE! DUNKING US UNDERWATER, BURNING US, ETC!
BUT EMOTIONALLY WE HAVE SO MUCH COMING UP! SO MUCH ATTACHMENT PAIN!
ITS AWFUL AND I AM LIKE I WANT IT DONE NOW SO DONE WITH IT ALL!”
Private email exchange 6/18/19 about candle burned that day for client, used with permission, with identifying details removed.
me to client in email:
I just started a candle for you. I hope this helps everybody. Oh, brief trigger–did they used to do mean things to your hand, between your thumb and the rest of the hand, like pinching, crushing, maybe biting or piercing-type thing, stepping on, something bad like that? I got terrible pains in that area only when I was putting the candle together, so that usually means it’s something from you. If they did that, they suck even more than they did before.
Client reply email:
THEY WOULD PUT NEEDLES IN BETWEEN OUR FINGERS AND THUMBS. WOW! YOU FELT THAT? WOW!
THANKS FOR DOING THE CANDLE. I KNOW IT IS GOING TO HELP.
If you have worked with me and found it beneficial and are willing to write a recommendation that can appear on this page, please let me know below or through email laughingdakini @ twc.com . Thank you all!