My email to repeat client while doing a candle for them today, 5/8/19:
“Also, are you guys having too much coffee? I could SMELL coffee in the sage I was burning with your candle, which usually does not smell like coffee but does always smell like whatever issue the people are having–I’d check with [another insider who likes coffee] if I were you!”
The reply was:
“Yes! we have been having a lot of it! I will try to cut down on it! thanks for the candle, as always it’s great!”
Private emails between candle service client with history of severe abuse and me, used with permission 2/27/19.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR SCARY DETAILS OF ABUSE AND RAW LANGUAGE:
Me to client in email:
“I was just starting to prepare the candle for you. Wow, you seem to have had some hard times–I mean, I knew that–and I’m so sorry about that.
I don’t want to trigger you, but here’s another question or two.
I got a lot of pain at the back of the hand, like maybe it got burned inside or crushed, and then this shitty shitty scary feeling of getting the face ducked into water or something like that, sort of bent over and breathless and up and down a lot. I’m so sorry if anything like that went on. The solid glass candleholder that I use just for you guys actually broke today while I put the candle in, so that usually means something is coming up emotionally for you. I did use a nice new clean one and I did light the candle, so the cooties are on their way out now!
Client email reply: “YES! ALL OF THAT AND THEN SOME! ALL OF THAT HAPPENED TO US DURING THE AWFUL ABUSE! DUNKING US UNDERWATER, BURNING US, ETC!
BUT EMOTIONALLY WE HAVE SO MUCH COMING UP! SO MUCH ATTACHMENT PAIN!
ITS AWFUL AND I AM LIKE I WANT IT DONE NOW SO DONE WITH IT ALL!”