When I prepared the candle for a clients’ system today (3/25/19), it felt so frantic energetically that it almost gave me convulsions so I chose a mellow pale yellow candle to express the energy peacefully and it felt much better by the time it was finished. Email exchange used with permission. I wrote initially:
“I just started your candle. What a busy frantic day it feels like! I hope you are well.
“I am ok thanks! I am busy though! You’re not wrong! The day has been manic! therapy and then work!
now just home an hour ago, have eaten dinner and am now relaxing and about
to hop in a bubble bath!”
Email exchange yesterday about a candle I burned 3/22/19 for a blind client with a severe abuse history, used with permission. I (Donnalee) experienced the physical feelings myself and wrote:
Trigger warning for question about
They used to pick you up by the neck
somehow into the air? Is that true?
What a scary thing. I hope I am
wrong about that, but it felt like someone
was doing it to me, some sort of being
in the air with some fabric or
something at the neck, clothing or
something tied, so I am guessing they had
done it to you.
The reply from the client:
trigger talk of abuse details given.
yes. that’s true. they would do all
sorts to us. they’d think up things.
picking us up and holding us upside
down in the air was just one thing they
did. holding us with rope or something
like rope dangling us in the air. it
Here’s a chance to get a series of four candles at (perhaps!) a reduced price–bids are starting at $15.00 (as opposed to the usual $54.00) in the silent auction for the annual gala fundraiser for Hudson Valley LGBTQ Community Center. The link for all the auction items is here https://e.givesmart.com/events/caQ/i/ and bidding starts March 1. The Center’s general url is https://lgbtqcenter.org/
NB: They have apparently combined this with another actual physical candle which is another auction item, and they are now together under the heading something like “light a candle”. In a way, it’s an even better deal, since the winner gets my services plus another large nice candle!
“Greetings. I have been significantly impressed by Ms. Dermady-Minney’s ability to diagnose and empathically feel what is going on in my body and point to various energy obstructions. She is a gifted healer and is usually quite accurate about her intuitions. She manifests them in her own system and is a caring, compassionate, empathetic and effective practitioner. I would thoroughly recommend her without hesitation. ”
Private emails between candle service client with history of severe abuse and me, used with permission 2/27/19.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR SCARY DETAILS OF ABUSE AND RAW LANGUAGE:
Me to client in email:
“I was just starting to prepare the candle for you. Wow, you seem to have had some hard times–I mean, I knew that–and I’m so sorry about that.
I don’t want to trigger you, but here’s another question or two.
I got a lot of pain at the back of the hand, like maybe it got burned inside or crushed, and then this shitty shitty scary feeling of getting the face ducked into water or something like that, sort of bent over and breathless and up and down a lot. I’m so sorry if anything like that went on. The solid glass candleholder that I use just for you guys actually broke today while I put the candle in, so that usually means something is coming up emotionally for you. I did use a nice new clean one and I did light the candle, so the cooties are on their way out now!
Client email reply: “YES! ALL OF THAT AND THEN SOME! ALL OF THAT HAPPENED TO US DURING THE AWFUL ABUSE! DUNKING US UNDERWATER, BURNING US, ETC!
BUT EMOTIONALLY WE HAVE SO MUCH COMING UP! SO MUCH ATTACHMENT PAIN!
ITS AWFUL AND I AM LIKE I WANT IT DONE NOW SO DONE WITH IT ALL!”
An exchange between me and a client about me being a body empath and the candle burned for them 2/15/19, used with permission:
—– Original Message —–
From: “Donnalee Dermady-Minney”
Sent: Friday, February 15, 2019 7:42 PM
Subject: I just started a candle for you today
not to trigger you but
Seriously, did someone used to grab you by the elbow? I was starting to
prepare the candle for you right now, and I felt this really strong grip
on my left elbow, as if someone used to grab you by the elbow to stop you doing something or to force you to do something. If they did, I’m sorry
and it sucks. The good news is it won’t work on me and I will burn up all
I’ll let you know when it is finished–
WELL F**K! YES! THEY DID! A LOT OF TIMES THEY DID! PEOPLE WHO ABUSED US WOULD DO THAT TO US! WOW! THAT’S WEIRD THAT IT HAPPENED TO YOU WHEN YOU WERE PREPARING THE CANDLE!
WELL I’M GLAD YOU ARE BURNING THEIR BAD ENERGY!
From a private email received 2/16/19 from ongoing weekly client about candle burned 2/13/19, used with permission:
I wanted to thank you for the beneficial results I obtained this past week. Your candles seem to serve as a healing adjunct. A new patient contacted me to obtain my services after a lull in new referrals and equally satisfactorily, an old patient contacted me to resume services after a five or six year hiatus. Thanks for your help!